Congratulations on finding the partner with whom you are ready to share your life!

As you plan the other details of your wedding, there are many people ready to help you to make a personal statement with table service, menu, clothing, and flowers.

But you may be discovering that there are fewer options for couples who want help in creating their own ceremony.

You may be looking for clergy who will honor and help you articulate YOUR values and spirituality in a ceremony reflecting YOUR experiences, philosophy, and taste. You may be seeking a guide who will help you discover the promises you most need to make to one another.

The words of your wedding ceremony say so much about you. They describe the married life you aspire to. Ideally, these words come through a process of reflection on your values and the unique set of needs and strengths you bring to the marriage. Chosen wisely, your vows are the promises that can make that life possible. Over the years, the words by which you marry can continue to remind you of what you most cherish. Renewed by memory, carefully considered words can guide you through the times of trial that are part of all marriages.

But writing a personal ritual can be a daunting task. And it can be equally difficult to find an officiant who will work with you through a process of reflection to write such a ceremony.